I’m the type of person who usually enjoys being busy. I like to think I’m quite organised, I’m a lists sort of gal and I mean I literally have hundreds of lists in my house. A list for what needs to be cleaned, a list of presents I need to get, a list of people I need to contact, a list for work and a list for my lists. Lists are life. Ps, try say ‘lists are life’ really fast ten times, haha… Okay, back on track now.
Before having my son I could get through my to do list before 2pm and it was wonderful! I felt on top of the world, organised and peaceful. To see a to do list with everything crossed off is one of the best feelings for me. However, since having my son I find going to the toilet in peace a challenge let alone everything else! I’m super lucky to have my own business and that I’m able to set the hours I work and spend extra time with my son, but it can also be a challenge. If I can’t get everything I want to get done completed (which is most days) it leaves me feeling overwhelmed and stressed. I am starting to realise that I can’t control everything that happens in my day and I just have to go with the flow, get the most important things done when I can and enjoy the little things that the day throws at me.
Here’s a typical day for me:
I’m up with my 9 month old usually 3-4 times a night so when I say ‘wake up’ please know I have been awake all throughout the night already.
Okay, so I ‘Wake up’ for the day, get my son dressed out of his PJ’s and then proceed to have a shower and get myself ready. This task itself takes me 10 minutes of prep to get rid of anything dangerous he can grab, put some strategically placed toys around for him to find in his walker and block off an area for him to roam free in. On a good day I can enjoy the shower in peace and get ready like the good ol’ days but then there’s the typical day where I have a child screaming at me through the glass door, his walker literally running into me constantly as I try put my mascara on which leaves bruises on my feet. Next is getting breakfast ready for us both and then getting everything ready and together to go drop him off to my in law’s house so I can go and teach my morning dance classes.
I seriously miss the days of being able to walk out of the house with just my phone, wallet and keys. I now have to pack a huge bag full of everything he might need. From being so sleep deprived my brain doesn’t function as well as it should, so most days I spend a good 10 minutes going to the car, forgetting something, going back inside, going back to the car, putting him in his car seat, forgetting something, going back to get it and so on. This is where I should be writing a list of what I need in his bag! But when you get only 4 broken hours of sleep a night I usually forget this. After 2 hours of prepping to get out of the house dressed and ready that’s when the day really kicks off!
Off I go to teach which for me is my ‘me’ time. I am not afraid to say It’s nice to get away for a couple of hours, even if it is with 2-6 year olds, it’s a change that I need in my day. When I return and have picked my son up I then have all the other ‘fun’ stuff that come with having your own small business. Invoicing, receipts, books, emails, calls, checking in with my staff, chasing up late payments, lesson plans, cutting music, choreographing and the list goes on. In between all that I am breastfeeding, comforting and playing with my son, which I love!
You are probably thinking that I’m so lucky to be able to work from home but it’s actually a challenge! Just imagine me on the phone to a client, whilst holding my son, bouncing up and down and pointing to exciting things so he is distracted and doesn’t make a noise. Being a work-at-home-Mama has its benefits but also comes with its challenges. On days where my son is having a difficult time and won’t let me do anything I just have to put everything on hold until he goes to bed that night and then proceed to do my work, which often takes me up until midnight.
If I am lucky enough to get some work done during the day I most definitely don’t have time to do any housework. That nonsense gets done at night when he’s asleep and again I don’t get to bed until late. Most days now I just do what is absolutely needed like washing and making dinner, which I do in the afternoon during his short 40 minute nap. Luckily my husband works most nights so during the day he can help out with some housework and play with Theo if I need some time to complete something important.
Then there’s the whole process of giving him dinner, bath, boob, story time and bed. This whole process takes a good 2+ hours. Once he is finally asleep I can have some time with my husband (if he’s not working night shift) or to myself, eat dinner, do some work (if it wasn’t done during the day) and then I can go to bed, only to be woken up again in an hour and then it all starts again.
Even though I’m busy with caring for my son, keeping a healthy marriage, running a business and starting a blog I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I may get stressed, overwhelmed and have a few mental breakdowns along the way but this is where I am in my life right now. The good outweighs the bad and I am so thankful to have been blessed with so much.